My daughter, Kerry, is now a freshman at UVM. I was talking with her on the phone yesterday about her courses for next semester, and after I got off the phone I thought about some of my favorite courses I took when I was at UVM. One that leaps to the front of my mind was "Human Sexuality". It was a very popular elective - one of those HUGE classes of over 200 people. I signed up to take it Junior year.
The class was always very well attended. I have to admit it was one of the most "useful" classes I took in college. Covering sexuality from birth to old-age, it prepared me for the years of doctor's appointments I experienced while trying to have our first baby.
It was during this class that I took a HUGE step in my life.
Since the class was so large, it was broken up into smaller discussion groups once a week. I can't remember what incentive was offered, but the teacher asked for students to volunteer to be discussion group leaders.
And I volunteered.
This may not seem like a HUGE step to you.
You must realize, however, that I was so shy in high school that I could probably count on one hand the times I volunteered to answer a question. I rarely even participated in a discussion group. I don't know how many teachers even knew what my voice sounded like!
But college was a time to reinvent myself. And this was a part of all that.
I don't know why I chose to use this class to reinvent myself. It's not like I was an expert in this subject. In fact, I was FAR from it! I might have been the only virgin in the entire class of 200! You can't even imagine how nervous I was the night of my first discussion group!
Everyone came to the discussion group with an air of bravado on the topic, especially the guys. But I was straight up with my group right from the start. I distinctly remember the looks on their faces when I admitted I had never had sex. As it turned out, that was the ice-breaker that prompted many questions and some wonderful discussions. I was very strong in my beliefs that sex should wait until marriage and I could introduce another point of view on our topics of discussion throughout the semester.
And with each step, we learn and grow.
And that's all that matters!