For the first 50 years of my life, my perfectionist self mistakenly believed it was all about knowing more, getting it right, planning, attempting to prevent bad things from happening, and keeping all of my chicks in a row. It took me this long to discover that the JOURNEY is all that matters. This quote from Gilda Radner sums it all up:

"I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Staying Current with Snapchat

As the years go by, one of the ways I try to stay connected to the "younger generation" is to become knowledgeable about social media apps that they use.  Just last week, I decided it was time to learn more about Snapchat, so I got the app and asked Annie to show me how to use it.  In particular,  I learned about the filters in Snapchat that make it easy to change the picture in creative ways.

My husband, on the other hand, has no interest (or time) to engage in social media.  He only uses email and text messages.  His lack of understanding has often been a source of amusement in our family.

My daughter, Kerry, started orientation at Hartford Hospital on Monday.  She and Annie frequently Snapchat funny things to each other.  On Monday,  Kerry sent Annie this picture.

Annie,  in turn, thought this was funny and 
shared it with the rest of the family on a group text message.
Here are the responses:

He told us at the dinner table later that night that he thought Hartford Hospital 
was trying to make orientation more fun by having a face painting station!

Yesterday,  I experimented with the app and tried the same filter on me.

It was so much fun,  I tested out all of the other filters too.

But the most fun of all is the "face-swap" filter. 
It allows you to take a picture of two faces, but the filter 
swaps the faces, keeping the rest of the head intact.
Since I didn't have anyone else here to take a picture with,
I used photos.  The results were amusing!  Enjoy!

Swapped with Adam

Swapped with Vance!

Swapped with Annie.

Swapped with Kerry.

And last, but not least, my mother-in-law!

Saturday, April 23, 2016


If I had to name an age where I first felt like a real adult,  I'd have to say it was when I was twenty-five years old.  At age 25,  I had been working at my first job for a few years and I was newly married (one month).  It was a time when I had many of the responsibilities of an adult, but without the cares of a house or children. It was a pretty sweet time of life.

My son, Adam, turned twenty-five yesterday.  I think parents always see the "child" in their children, no matter what their age.  However, I have to say he seems more and more adult-like with each passing day.

On Thursday, Annie went to visit Adam and spent a normal workday with him at the  school where he teaches.

 I would have liked to be there to see Adam on the job, interacting with his students, but it would be slightly embarrassing for him to have his mom observing his classes!
Having his sister there was so much nicer!

At my request,  Annie took a few pictures for me.

Waiting for the subway.

Crossing the street to his school.

Preparing for his day.

Unfortunately, since the students aren't allowed to have cell phones in school,  Annie refrained from using hers when the students were there.  

I don't have pictures, but Annie told us so much about her day.  She loved her interactions with the kids, and tried to find out what they thought of her brother as a teacher.  She told us she had expected Adam to have a "teacher persona" - a little bit tougher demeanor or a little bit more authoritative tone of voice.  However, she was wrong.  Adam was exactly the same with his students as he is with everyone else.  Adam was just Adam. 

I think the kids can spot when a teacher genuinely loves his job and genuinely cares for his students, because Annie observed that Adam's students seem to really like him.  I'm not surprised.

Adam came home to celebrate his birthday last night.  
The whole family was at home.  

Kerry came over early and helped me with the cooking, since she hasn't begun her new job yet.

Ginger chicken, fried rice, potato salad, sweet potatoes, veggies...

and a few libations.

Adam had requested an ice cream cake, 
which I made - and Kerry decorated.

He opened his gifts - shirt, tie, gift cards, but one gift was very unique.
Grandma Alice repurposed a joke gift (t-shirt) that Adam had given her
for Christmas and made it into a pillow!

Adam has this week off from school and is spending a little bit
of time at home before heading back to the city.  It's nice to have
him home with us for a while.

He can take a break from the adult world for a few days.
We will cook for him and let him sleep as long as he wants.

I remember what it was like to go home to my parent's house.
No matter how old I was, the
responsibilities of adulthood were eased
when I was there with my mom and dad.

Happy Birthday, Adam!