For the first 50 years of my life, my perfectionist self mistakenly believed it was all about knowing more, getting it right, planning, attempting to prevent bad things from happening, and keeping all of my chicks in a row. It took me this long to discover that the JOURNEY is all that matters. This quote from Gilda Radner sums it all up:

"I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.

Thursday, May 18, 2017


My youngest child, Annie,  will graduate from college on Sunday.

When I look back on my life,  
the time after college until I became a mom
was very unique and special.

It was a time of "becoming".

There were:

challenges, fears, adventure, responsibilities, plans made and derailed, overwhelming happiness and heartache, uncertainty and doubts, feelings of accomplishment and pride, and unbelievable growth

and love.

Looking back on my these years, 
I was fortunate to have enjoyed going to work everyday.
I met many friends and spent time
socially with them after work was done.

I attended and took part in many weddings during those years.
Love came into my life in its own time.

When I found the right person, I knew it.

I did things I loved,

and always remembered to spend time with those I left behind at home.

I felt the comfort of pets.

I enjoyed my youth.  I never thought there would
be a time when I would have to watch what (and how much)
I eat.  Time has taught me otherwise.

I thought my fiance was dreamy.

When the time was right, I pledged my love and life to him.

We traveled and enjoyed our life together.

We built a life and a home.

And finally, we were fortunate to become parents 
and headed into another time in our lives.

A time full of: 

challenges, fears, adventure, responsibilities, plans made and derailed, overwhelming happiness and heartache, uncertainty and doubts, feelings of accomplishment and pride, unbelievable growth

and love.

It was a time of "becoming".

Tuesday, May 9, 2017


 5 Boros, 4 Hours, 3 Friends, 2 Wheels, 1 Ferry, 0 Cars

In January,  we signed up online for the Five Boro Bike Tour in New York City.
Gayle, Vance and Cindy entered as a team named "Le Tour de Vance".
Within only a few days 31,997 other riders also registered to 
participate in the event to take place on Sunday, May 7.

We arrived in the city on Saturday afternoon with our bikes,
checked into our hotel, and headed to the Bike Expo to pick up our
participation packets containing our bib numbers and helmet covers.

We ate pasta and gelato in Little Italy before walking back to the hotel
to get a good night's sleep in preparation for tomorrow's 4o mile ride.

By 7:30 AM, 
we were in line on Church Street in lower Manhattan, 
joining all of the other riders in our starting wave.

Among those in our starting wave were friends
 from back home - Lisa and Daryll!

Everyone in the crowd was excited for the start of the "tour".
Note: this was not a "race".

The route we were about to begin would take us through
the five Boros of New York:
 Manhattan, the Bronx, Queens, Brooklyn, and Staten Island.

We headed up 6th Avenue and through Central Park.

We stopped at the first official "rest stop"
 after about 10 miles 
where our son, Adam, was waiting to see us.

There were also lots of snacks - bagels, bananas, raisins,
 juice, etc along with about 25 porta-potties.  
This was our only stop of the day
(although there were many other rest stops).

We headed down the FDR.  The highway was closed to traffic on one side.

The tunnels were a lot of fun, especially when the riders all made
noises which echoed loudly off the walls.

There were quite a few biking accidents along the way, and at one point
we had to stop and wait for an emergency vehicle to come for the injured rider.

Next, we crossed the Queensboro Bridge into Queens. 
The whole course was pretty flat except for the bridges 
which consisted of an ascent and descent.

This was my favorite bridge of the day!

I was very impressed with how this huge event was run.
With so many people, it could have been crazy.   

They took great care to prepare the roads.
Not only were all 40 miles of road swept clean 
of debris, glass, and loose stone,  
but all potholes appearedto be freshly filled.

They also took the time to spray paint inspiring
messages on the road at key points on the course.

And the people of New York also provided entertainment along the way!

After riding through neighborhoods of Queens resembling
that of Archie Bunker in "All in the Family",
we headed into Brooklyn.

The final stretch to the Verrazano Bridge seemed to be the most
challenging with long gradual inclines.

The Verrazano Bridge was the toughest climb of the day. 
It wasn't steep,  but it was long and it was at the end
of a 40 mile ride.

The downhill on the 2nd half of the bridge to the finish line was a great way to 
end the ride!

Special 40th Anniversary finishing medals were given out at the finish.

In order to get back to Manhattan,  it was necessary to get back on
our bikes and ride 3 miles to the Staten Island Ferry.  We didn't realize
that this was actually part of the 40 miles until we passed the
40 mile marker.

As we waited for the next ferry to arrive, it began to drizzle and
we were getting cold - probably because we weren't moving anymore.

We were glad to get on the ferry where it was warm and dry.

The view out the window was nice too.

This day was truly fun, from start to finish.  Vance and I had never ridden
40 miles in one day before, but it was an easy ride with lots of things
to see and surrounded by 32,000 happy people who were having
just as much fun as we were.

We will be back.

(Some of the photos are mine, 
but photo credits must be given to the participants 
who posted many of their pictures on
Instagram under the hashtag #fiveborobiketour!)