For the first 50 years of my life, my perfectionist self mistakenly believed it was all about knowing more, getting it right, planning, attempting to prevent bad things from happening, and keeping all of my chicks in a row. It took me this long to discover that the JOURNEY is all that matters. This quote from Gilda Radner sums it all up:

"I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.
"


Friday, February 10, 2017

Ode to Winter


I truly, beyond a shadow of a doubt, LOVE winter.
More than that,  I NEED winter.


The cool, crisp air of a winter day energizes me.


Unlike the majority of people in my life (and the world)
the heat and humidity of the summer bring me down.
By the middle to the end of the summer,  
I experience a sort of depression.


Every year in the spring,  I am full of hope and excitement
to work in my garden and reap the benefits of its beauty.
As the heat of the summer builds,  I tell myself this year will be different.


I tell myself that it's mind over matter. 
I get up early to walk the dogs before the sun is beating down,
yet I still come home each morning drenched in sweat
from the humidity in the morning air.


My garden looks lovely until mid-July when I find
it harder and harder to force myself out into the heat,
longing for the change of seasons.
Air conditioning helps me keep my sanity,
but also holds me prisoner.


If you want to make me happy,  send me a snowstorm.
I love to shovel!
I rush outside before my husband has the chance 
to run the snowblower.  
If I don't make it outside before him,
I instruct him to leave me some snow to shovel.


I believe my dogs feel the same as I feel.
They have a spring in their step in the winter
and are able to walk farther and faster.




I also love to run in the winter.  Like the dogs,
I am able to run farther and faster in the cold.


There are so many other gifts the winter sends my way.


Nothing beats soaking in a hot bath,
or a steamy cup of hot cocoa,


or hiking in the woods without worrying about
mosquitos or ticks.


Of course,  I love wearing winter clothing too,
especially bright colors!  
And if you're having a bad hair day,  
just throw on a hat!



Then there are those days when the thermometer 
creeps above 60 degrees
and 
you get to shed your jacket, hat, and gloves!


My husband hates the winter and loves the summer.  
I just don't get it, but I accept it.
I think maybe it's a biological thing. 
He always needs more blankets on the bed than I do.
He can sit on the beach without going in the water to cool down.


As so many of my generation are making plans 
to relocate to warmer climates,
I would not choose to go that route. 

Two years ago,  we were on vacation in Hawaii for two weeks 
at the end of January.  While we were gone, the Northeast 
was hit with one snowstorm after another.  
I remember feeling sad that I was missing out!


We got well over a foot of snow yesterday!  


I'm feeling great!


There's nothing like a good Nor'easter to bring a smile to my face!

Thursday, February 2, 2017

Two-and-Twenty - Annie's Other Smile


I write a "birthday blog" each year on the birthdays of my children.
Today is Annie's 22nd birthday!
As the years go on,  I sometimes struggle to come up with a theme
for the birthday blogs that I haven't done before.  Last night,  I looked
back to prior years in search of inspiration. 
 In 2016,  I wrote about Annie's smile.  She has a great smile!

Take a look back to last year's blog here!
Almost all of the pictures were depicting Annie's "big" smile.

This year I'd like to focus on Annie's "other" smile.

She's had it since she was very young.





As I looked through so many photos from the past,  
I wondered just when Annie uses her "other" smile.



Perhaps when she is being flirty?





Or maybe when she feels proud of herself?





Or possibly she's extremely excited but a little unsure of herself?


Maybe it's when she's surrounded by people she loves.


I know that sometimes it is very mischievous!



Whatever the circumstance,  I love it!
Her smile makes me smile.































Today,  on 2/2 Annie turned 22!

Wow!

There have been many times during the past year
when Annie's smile hasn't come as easily.

I'm glad those times are now in the past.

The coming year will be a time of endings
and new beginnings.  Annie will graduate in May
and move on to a new time in her life.

The best thing about a smile is
she can take it with her wherever
she decides to go next!

Happy Birthday, dearest Annie!
Keep on smiling!

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

The Second Time Around

When my daughter, Kerry, expressed an interest in getting a brother for her one-and-only cat, Fletcher, she was also torn.  Would she be able to love another cat as much as she loves Fletcher?  Would Fletcher feel betrayed or displaced?  Would he accept another cat in the house?

I remember feeling the same way when I got pregnant with Kerry. After spending 14 months alone with Adam, how could I possibly feel THAT MUCH LOVE for another baby?  How would he feel when I had to share my love, attention, and time with a new baby?

A few weeks ago,  Kerry found a cute little boy at Mary's Kitty Korner in Granby, CT.  He was a bit shy, but she got good vibes from him, and he was also adorable!  She filled out paperwork to apply for adoption and had to wait almost a week for them to check her references and give her the green light to adopt.


There was a little issue with the sex of the cat.   
On his cage, the sign said he was a 3 year old male. 

Then we saw this posting on Instagram...


Ideas for boys names turned into girls names.

But when Kerry went to pick him up last Friday,
she discovered he was, indeed, a boy!

She named him Kevin.


Kevin was quite scared when he got to his new home.



He slinked into the closet for safety.


Kerry is keeping Kevin separate from Fletcher in the spare bedroom
for a while, letting them get used to each other slowly.


This is her first selfie taken with Kevin. 
I'm sure there will be many more to come.
He's not very at ease being held yet.

As grandparents, my husband and I like to visit!
We picked up a new toy for Fletcher and made
sure to give him lots of attention.




We spend time with Kevin in his bedroom, but try not to 
overwhelm him.




It's been almost a week since Kevin came home,
and he and Fletcher have met.





They aren't afraid of each other, and seem interested in spending
time together.  They even played chase for a little while
yesterday in Kerry's bedroom.


Kerry is very patient and loving. 
With time, Kevin will grow to trust her and return her love.
I'm sure of it.

And Fletcher might not be as lonely 
when Kerry is working.