For the first 50 years of my life, my perfectionist self mistakenly believed it was all about knowing more, getting it right, planning, attempting to prevent bad things from happening, and keeping all of my chicks in a row. It took me this long to discover that the JOURNEY is all that matters. This quote from Gilda Radner sums it all up:

"I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.
"


Friday, July 14, 2017

What Impressed Me the Most About London


When I look back on my time in London last month,
the single thing that made the biggest impression on
me was NOT this iconic red phone booth.


While the cupcake at Peggy Porschen Cakes
 was the best I have ever eaten,
and the store was deliciously PINK and beautiful,
it was NOT what I liked the best.



The London Eye was pretty cool.  
It gave us beautiful views of London.
We liked it a lot.
Still, something else was more remarkable.

Visiting Warner Brothers Studio to experience their fantastic
Harry Potter tour was a day we will never forget.  Learning how 
scenes were filmed, seeing original sets and props, and being filmed flying 
on a broomstick over London and Hogwarts was a big WOW!
It is right up there as one of our best days.


Our apartment was a nice place to crash at the end
of a long day of walking.  Nice, but not a top memory.


Harrods was an expensive, impressive department store,
but too pricey for me.


Londoner street signs were unique, and the Underground
was clean and easy to use.  It was easy to get around the city.
Memorable for its practicality, but not my favorite thing.


One day, we tracked down the house 
whose exterior was used in the filming
of The Parent Trap movie.  
Though it was fun for a few pictures.,
it was not on top of my list.


This cat was one of the best things in Notting Hill,
but not the most notable memory.





We happened upon this special exhibit in Kensington Palace -
"Diana - Her Fashion Story ". 
It was all about Princess Diana and how her sense of fashion evolved.
There were many dresses that I remember seeing her wear, 
along with photos of the occasions when she wore them.
I found this extremely interesting, and it opened up discussion with
Annie, who to my surprise didn't even know Diana was William
and Harry's mother!  We enjoyed the exhibit a lot!




The Princess Diana Memorial Garden at Kensington Palace is 
a garden designed to be appreciated from the walkway around
the perimeter - creating a simple, reflective place.
Too structured for my taste, but beautiful nonetheless.



It's the fairy-tale food that almost got Goldilocks killed.
Porridge with honey and bananas was on almost every 
breakfast menu.  For some reason, it tasted better than
oatmeal, even though it was oatmeal.
Tasty, but too filling to eat an entire bowl.


Biking anytime is fun, but when it saves your 
feet from walking more miles than necessary,
it's even better!  It brought big smiles to our faces.
Again, it did NOT take the #1 spot.


Seeing this musical was Annie's favorite thing of the entire trip!
I loved it too!  It was a perfect way to end our trip after just 
getting back from Paris!

My favorite thing was not a place.
It was not a tourist sight.
I couldn't take a photo of it.
Yet, I remember it fondly, more than anything else.

What impressed me very deeply, 
was the nature of the British people.

When I visit a foreign country and interact with the people
in many situations over the course of my stay,
I form a general impression of the
people based on my experiences.

I found the Brits to be 
calm,
friendly,
polite,
helpful,
warm,
courteous,
and
compassionate.

Although the British accents make anything sound nicer,
the words they choose and the tone they use made me
put me at ease and made me feel like I was talking to a friend.
For instance, when I went to the snack bar at the theater to 
purchase some ice cream,  the older gentleman greeted me,
smiling, like this:  "Hello there, Love!  What can I get for you?"
He made my day a little brighter.

Add to their warmth 
their strong sense of orderliness and decorum
and you have won me over completely.

Everything made sense. 
 The Underground signs were clear and we had no 
doubt whether or not we were on the right train.
When you crossed the street,  it was written in
large letters on the road in front of you which direction
you should look to check for oncoming cars.
Feet were painted on escalator steps to demonstrate
that you are supposed to stand on the right to let
people pass on the left.
In parks, you didn't hear parents yelling at their children.
No cars were blaring their horns in traffic.
Even dogs, who were let off-leash in the Royal Parks
seemed to know their manners and how to act.

So while I enjoyed the places we went and the things we saw,
my experiences were made even better by the people.

So THAT was my favorite thing about London!















Friday, July 7, 2017

WHERE IS MY BLOG YOU HAVE AN HOUR AND A HALF!


This is the message I received a short time ago
 from my daughter, Kerry.

Today is her 25th birthday. 

For the past 5 years,  
I have written a "birthday blog" for each of my children 
on their birthdays.  
Kerry is obviously worried that I forgot!
Well, I didn't!


HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KERRY!

A little over a year ago,
Kerry moved back to CT from Nashville.

I don't know if she realizes how much it has meant
to her dad and me to have her around.  Even though
she's not living at home, we see Kerry a few times 
every week.  Sometimes we share a meal,  or watch a TV show.
Other times I just stop to see her for a few minutes when
I'm in her neighborhood.

It's just nice.


I know they often say that "quality" time
is more important than "quantity".


While there may be some truth in that,
I think there is something to be said
for just enjoying ordinary everyday moments. 


We have done a lot together this past year. 


Kerry was able to go on vacation with us to Lake George.


We ate a LOT of ice cream together!


When Kerry is around,  we also get to spend
time with her friends (an added bonus!)



A short winter trip to Florida was a lot of fun!



Fletcher has gotten to know us too.


Kerry has a quality about her that 
makes things fun.



She also enjoys spending time outside
in nature - which we have in common!



She come up with quirky ideas that 
(for some reason)
we all go along with.



We celebrated her 25th birthday last night
with family visiting from New Jersey.



Janis, Gary, Kimiko, Miya and Grandma Alice joined our celebration.




As happy as we are to have Kerry living close-by,


I think she is just as happy.


At some point in the future, she may decide
to relocate again,   and that's ok. 
We are fortunate to have this time for now.

Happy 25th to our beautiful daughter!
We love you!

(AND I GOT IT DONE WITH 21 MINUTES TO SPARE!)

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Twelve Days with My Daughter

 Our adventure really began back in February,
when it was just an idea we thought would never happen.
Four months later, this mother/daughter trip became a reality.

One young woman fresh from her college graduation
with a lifetime of experiences to come
and
one not-so-young woman, knowing how rapidly the
years come and go, who wants to fit more 
experiences in her lifetime 

wander for 12 days in London and Paris.


Before the trip, I tried to anticipate things that could go wrong.
I brushed up on my French. 
I printed out transit directions to get to our apartments in each city.
I researched ideas of places we might like to visit.
I picked up some Euros and Pounds at the bank.

More importantly, I also knew that Annie likes her solitude,
and 12 days with mom might create some tension!
How would it all work out?


I'm happy to say we had a great trip!
I feel we each had our strengths and 
contributed in different ways to resolve problems.

I was definitely feeling my age.

Annie could see signs much sooner than I could,
and she was able to process things much faster too.
This was a lifesaver (more than once) when we were in a hurry to catch
a train and she would take control and shout out
which direction to turn as we hurried thru the train station.

She also came to my aid when I went to pay and 
I couldn't read the lettering on those tiny coins!


I felt my age, too, when we got special attention
because of the presence of a 
beautiful, friendly, smiling young woman!



It was definitely a plus that we both enjoyed the same things.
We weren't really big on doing the typical tourist things.
In fact, we were happy to see the London tourist attractions
(Big Ben, Tower Bridge, etc) from the comfort of the London Eye.
Instead, one of our goals was to eat cupcakes
 at Peggy Porschen's Cake shop.



Annie thought I was infantile in London because it struck me as funny
 every time we rode a certain subway, 
and the proper British lady on the loudspeaker would announce
 "This is a Piccadilly line service to Cockfosters!" 


We did lots of shopping but bought very little.
We spent time in a park watching men play Petanque.
We discovered the convenience of Uber.


I discovered that Annie is uncomfortable in crowded places.
I realized that she needs much more sleep than I do too.
We took much-needed naps.


Annie remembered streets and surroundings 
much better than I did.  When I pointed something out
that I had never seen before, she'd say
"Mommmm, we've been on this street so many times already!"
Oh well!


I had the pleasure of teaching Annie about Princess Diana.
She hadn't known that Prince William and Prince Harry 
are Diana's sons.


We rode bikes in lovely places.
We flew on broomsticks over Hogwarts.
We ate scones and clotted cream with Polly.


We ate hot dogs baked inside baguettes
and gelato formed in the shape of a rose.



We played rummy next to the Eiffel Tower.
We played rummy next to the London Eye.


I think traveling with someone, no matter who it may be,
 requires each person to be patient, understanding,
flexible, and willing to do things (or not) to help make
the other person happy.  You need to know that there
may be days that you wouldn't want to repeat, but
so many days that you will never forget!


I will always cherish these 12 days exploring London and Paris
 with my daughter 
and I feel so fortunate to have had this opportunity! 
Thank you, Annie!