For the first 50 years of my life, my perfectionist self mistakenly believed it was all about knowing more, getting it right, planning, attempting to prevent bad things from happening, and keeping all of my chicks in a row. It took me this long to discover that the JOURNEY is all that matters. This quote from Gilda Radner sums it all up:

"I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next.
"


Monday, February 1, 2016

See What Was Happening in New Jersey This Weekend!

Annie's quartet traveled to Glassboro, NJ for the MTNA (Music Teacher's National Association) Eastern Division competitions this weekend.  It
was only a 20 minute drive from where Vance's relatives live, so we decided to go too and make a party of it!  We headed out on Saturday morning with Vance's mom, stopped in NYC to pick up Adam, and arrived
shortly after lunch.

Annie and the guys from her quartet were coming over for dinner,
and preparation was already underway.  


Egg rolls were being rolled and fried. 
 Rice was fried.


An extremely large assortment of sushi was picked up 
at a local restaurant too.


And no Asian dinner would be complete without 
ginger chicken (10 lbs of it to be exact!)


Kimiko excitedly kept watch and was the first official greeter. 
The first of many!



Lauritz, Drew and Khanh were introduced and so it began!


First up: Time to eat!



Lauritz was surprisingly good with chopsticks!


After dinner,  we took a short break from eating for a short
performance by the quartet.


We were very impressed!





Next up:  A surprise birthday cake for a slightly early
celebration of Annie's 21st birthday!





And a gift that needed a little help from Khanh to open...


with his switchblade!



Inside were 21 gifts - some fun and some useful.






Next up: Dessert!


Ice cream cake, chocolate pudding dessert, brownies, raspberry squares, rice krispie treats, fruit dip, cookies - I may have forgotten something!






Next up:  BINGO


After a little explanation of the rules for Lauritz, we began.



As always, Kathy was the official Bingo Master!


BINGO is always fun, for young and old alike.


There were lots of prizes to pick from!




Khanh won a few very useful items!


Drew chose a few much-need hair accessories.





Before they left to go back to the hotel, the quartet
had a huddle.
 Is Annie making a prediction, perhaps?

They were scheduled to perform on Sunday afternoon,
with Lauritz participating in the solo competition in the morning.

We packed up and left the next morning
to bring Adam back to the city 
and make our way home to Connecticut.  
We waited anxiously to hear news of the results.

On our way out, on the backroads of New Jersey,
we saw an enormous flock of snow geese in the sky. 
They were circling and landing in a field that was out of view.
I wanted to get a picture, so we pulled off the road and 
I got out of the car.  I was amazed by what I saw!



It was like a national snow goose convention!  Thousands
of geese had landed on a farmer's field.
  

I read up on these geese and I guess it is common for them to 
travel in flocks of several hundred thousand.

Further research revealed that snow geese are symbols
of 
loyalty,
teamwork,
confidence,
protection,
fellowship,
determination,
and communication.

Maybe we were witnessing a sign of what was to come that day.

Using all of these qualities,
the quartet went on to take first place
in the MTNA Eastern Division Chamber Music 
competition for wind instruments!

 I received this text message from Annie:

WE HAVE NEVER PLAYED BETTER IN OUR 
LIVES OMG IT WAS LIKE THE PERFECT PERFORMANCE

They advance to the national competition 
held in Texas in April.
Also,  after realizing he forgot his dress pants
at school and borrowing a pair from Khanh,
Lauritz won the solo Young Artist competition
for woodwinds.


Congratulations!  We are so proud of all of you!
It was quite a weekend!  Thanks to our NJ relatives
for all the work and preparation to make
our visit festive, fun, and filling!

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

My Favorite Child

My favorite flavor of ice cream is chocolate.
My favorite thing to look at is the sky.
My favorite fruit is green grapes.
My favorite time of year is the fall.
My favorite child is... 
well, let me think about it for a moment.


I have three options to pick from.






Is my favorite child Adam?


Firstborns are always extra special, right?
Especially since he is my only son!


Adam is calm, steady, and even-tempered.


We both love to experience new places.


He is helpful and very considerate.
He has a very big heart.
He reminds me so much of my father!


Adam is a lifelong learner - something I strongly identify with.
On top of that, he's creative too.


 Isn't it obvious in this picture that he's my favorite? Right?

Or is Kerry my favorite?


We are both very shy and wary of new situations.


We are both nurturing and caring.

She has a great sense of humor and loves
to make people laugh.


We both love all things Vermont. 


She's good at figuring things out and
has many creative ideas.


How could Kerry not be my favorite??

But there's one more to consider.  Annie.


When she was young, I got to spend a lot of alone time
with her while Adam and Kerry were at school.


She was everything I wasn't as a child.
Confident, outgoing, fearless.  I was in awe.


We both like to dress up and look pretty - 
clothes, makeup, nail polish.


She loves to have her picture taken, and loves to take
selfies with me.  By the sheer volume of
mother/daughter photos on Facebook and Instagram
everyone must suspect that Annie's my favorite.


We have great conversations about life
and I think we really "get" each other.
Annie's the only one of my kids that will sing with me in the car too!


Anyone can see that my favorite must be Annie!

Adam.  Kerry.  Annie.

I wonder who they think is the favorite?
Does any one them secretly feel like the top dog?
Does any one of them feel second best,  or worst,  at the bottom
of the barrel in the favoritism department?

If I've done my job,
I haven't given them the slightest clue
who my favorite child is.

In fact, I don't know the answer myself.

I see so many aspects of myself in each of them.
They each make me happy in different ways.
They each tug at my heart for different reasons.

If I was in front of a firing squad
and was told my life would be spared
if I named my favorite child,
I could not do it.

It's impossible.